Social media has made me boring
I’ve lived in many different places in my life, and spent a lot of time online. As a result, my friends are dispersed around the world. We see one another rarely, and stay in touch through short letters, text conversations and phone calls. Through these occasional communications, we learn about what is going on in each other’s lives. We share anecdotes about where we’ve been, what we’re thinking about, what we’ve done, read, heard and watched.
At least, that’s how it used to work.
Now, when I travel, it appears in my Facebook feed. When I do something interesting, I mention it on identi.ca and Twitter. When I read something I like, I share it on Google Reader. If I watch a video which reminds me of a friend, I send them a link. If I have an idea I think is worth sharing, I write about it on my blog.
The end result of all this is that when I catch up with friends who use social media, I don’t have much to say. They’ve already heard it all, and there is very little “catching up” to do. It’s awkward when I start to tell them about something which has happened to me, and they remind me that they’ve already heard about it.
I would have expected this to make me feel closer to people, but it doesn’t. It makes the relationship feel less intimate. Reading something on a feed is not the same as hearing about it first-hand, but even so, the first-hand account feels a bit redundant because it’s not new.
Is anyone else having the same experience?